Are You Ready To Move In Together

If the answer to ANY of the following questions is NO then that’s also your answer…

1 – Are you financially stable? You don’t need to be balling out of control, but are you able to pay your own way?

2 – Is he/she financially stable? See above

3 – Have you been away together for at least a week? Stayed in the same hotel room, had some insight into how the other lives?

4 – Are you secure in your relationship? No trust issues, happy, not worried about outside influence?

If the answer to any of the above is NO. Then NO you’re not ready to live together in my honest opinion and here’s why.

To me, the biggest mistake you can make above all else is to move in with someone or move someone in with you when the BOTH of you are not financially secure as individuals. It’s all good you being financially secure, or your partner being financially secure but if there isn’t harmony on that front BEFORE you take the step to do something as huge as moving in with eachother then you’re setting yourself up for failure. It’s known that finance is one of the biggest strain causes for relationships, even when people have their shit together; so imagine how horrendous it will get when one of you is eating food they don’t have the means to bring to the table.

Going away with your partner is a great way to find out exactly who they are by how they live. If you’re a neat freak and they’re not, you’re going to notice at some point. Whilst it may seem really trivial to be that concerned about seemingly small things “oh she leaves her shit everywhere”, it’s not because it’s an indication of how she lives. If you are polar opposites; no it’s not impossible for it to work out in a living arrangement but at least you know what you’re going into and you can be prepared.

Security. People think that when you move in with someone that will eradicate insecurities and fears you have about where they are and what they’re doing. WRONG. It actually does the opposite. Why? Because all that will happen is every time that person leaves the house, stays out a little late, doesn’t come home when they said, took too long to get home from work; it will send your mind on a wild goose chase. Trust cannot be built by force. Moving in with someone to attempt to build trust is force because no matter what if you don’t trust that person, when they leave the house that doubt will always be there!

Plus moving in with someone makes the relationship seem so much older than it’s years. 3 years feels like 15years and when you’re young and still have a lot of living to do, that breeds resentment and a relationship that was otherwise perfect, otherwise meant to be…can fall flat on it’s face because you took it somewhere it wasn’t ready to be!

Only Thing I Hate More Than A Dumb Hoe … Is A SMART Hoe!

Dumb Hoes are everywhere … Nothing new. Sadly we live in a world where girls are fucking dudes for a spliff and finding themselves creating home movies with groups of guys, and being paid in nothing but a lack of respect and a name for themselves that will stick in ways they hadn’t even contemplated at the time!

I hate dumb hoes, because I pity them.

I pity the fact that they are stupid enough to think a man will take them seriously after they have slept with 5 guys they don’t know, at the same time.. On camera.

I pity the fact that they don’t have the common sense to know they are playing a losing game! Nobody wants to wife the girl that everyone’s been through.. Don’t get it twisted though, someone somewhere will one day… But nobody says “you know that girl that slept with every man on the block, yeah her, I wanna marry her you know” NOBODY FUCKING SAYS THAT! And so I hate the dumb hoe, because I pity her!

But what I hate more than her, is her smart ass friend who knows EXACTLY what her smart ass is doing. I know too many of them and they BAFFLE me! The smart hoe is the female who is seemingly together, doing well in life, looks like she’s going places, everyone’s sure she is going to be something … But is smashing a different guy every week and feeling more and more shit about herself because she knows what she is doing is whack! The smart hoe is the chick knowingly selling herself short, not even really enjoying the feel good for more than a few minutes because she’s too busy asking herself what she’s doing!

The dumb hoe doesn’t have the mental capacity to even look at what she’s doing as anything other than a black and white situation, it was just something she did. The smart hoe knew and has been knowing that she’s settling and she’s doing it anyway…

That shit baffles me

STOP Playing Chicken With These Boys!!

Let’s keep this one short and sweet!

Ladies, ladies, ladies … please stop playing chicken with these not ready to settle down, telling you I love you but talking to every chicken head that shows me a little attention, know I will never find another woman as perfect as you but I’ma still holla at shorty on the low, trying desperately to keep you hanging around until I’m ready to be a semi decent man to you, boys!

If you’re gonna play chicken with them and see who you can bring more bullshit to the table… you cannot win.


Because no matter how good a woman you may be… if a man is not ready to receive that woman in all her glory in his life… it’s irrelevant.

A man will have the woman of his dreams in every way, and still entertain females that aren’t worth half of her. A man will have a woman that his family love, his friends think is hella cool and will still fuck it up to send a dick pic and get his ego stroked.

Don’t play chicken with these boys, WIN by walking that shit out your life!

7 Signs You Should Break Up..

Nobody but the parties involved in the specific relationship can provide a definitive answer to this question because only you know what does and doesn’t make you happy. However in my opinion, there are ways that even the most love blind sucker can tell it’s time to call it a day.

1. The attraction is GONE. I don’t mean it’s going, I don’t mean it’s not as strong as it was, I mean GONE. Like he makes your skin crawl, don’t want him to touch you, would rather shit in your hands and clap than be intimate with him, don’t think he’s cute any more and dread what your kids will look like. Yeah if you feel like this, that spark probably ain’t coming back…time to keep it pushing.

2. You fight MORE than you laugh. Couples are going to fight, you wouldn’t be normal if you didn’t. It’s a given. However when you spend more time fighting than you do laughing and enjoying eachothers conversation and company then something isn’t right. What is the point in that? What are you even holding on to, it’s not even like you have fun with eachother anymore.

3. EVERYTHING is a fight or an argument. Whilst it’s normal to argue and fight, it’s not normal for small things, big things, all things to cause it to get heated. If it does it means you’re no longer communicating. Whilst this can be fixed, both parties have to really want to fix it and usually it’s this way because either one or both are not as invested as they were.

4. You (or him/her) look elsewhere for affection/happiness. Do I even need to explain this one? If you entertain outsiders in order to get your fill of affection, if you rely on someone else to make you laugh for the day or even to have a worthwhile conversation with then it’s probably over.

5. They damage your self esteem. So I hate the smart asses who are like “It’s called SELF esteem how can someone else damage it”, because they’re just trying to be smart with a play on words. The truth is, although it is about how you feel about yourself; outside influences change for the better and for the worse how you feel about yourself. You’re human. How other people react to you, treat you, speak to you, see you, matters when you care about the opinions of those people so if you’re with someone who negatively impacts that…ask yourself why?

6. You don’t want the same things. This one is always subject to change because people change. People who said they didn’t want kids at the start of the relationship, may well want kids when they fall in love and vice verse. However if you’re with someone and it’s long term and the things you want differ wildly; maybe you need to sit down and work it out because whilst that might change over the duration of your relationship it also may not and then you’ve invested years and years and years with someone who will never provide what you want.

7. You’re reading this and your mental checklist is full of ticks... The thing is I could go on all day with signs and reasons as to why you might be in the wrong relationship, with the wrong person, at the wrong time, but let’s be honest. You didn’t really need to read this to know you’re situation needs changing one way or another.

I’ve searched all sorts of things when I’ve been in a strange place within my relationships, but not because I’m trying to find the answers online but rather because I’m trying to find the courage to dig out the answers I know I already have. There’s something comforting about knowing you’re not on your own… that someone else is going through the same shit, that someone elses boyfriend makes them feel like shit.

All relationships are not meant to last. Some relationships are put in your life to teach you how to be better for the next person, sometimes you’re the teacher and sometimes the student…x

The KARRUECHE TRAN Interview …

I watched the Karrueche Tran interview and I had mixed feelings about it. Here’s why..

1 – The interviewer. I can’t even remember her name. What a patronising cow. I hate older women like that who clearly don’t seem to appreciate that times have changed. Dating in 1980 was not the same as dating in 2015. It’s different. If you don’t understand the times, you don’t understand how difficult it is to maintain a relationship in a generation where you don’t even have to leave your house to meet new women or when women take pride in stepping on each other and think it is something of an achievement to ‘get’ someone elses man? It wasn’t like that in their day, but it is now.

2 – Karrueche tried it. She tried because she attempted to say that when ‘Chris Brown’ called her and said let’s hang out, she was just like ‘yeah ok’ …erm ok no you weren’t because he wasn’t and isn’t and never has been to you, a normal person. If that’s really how you went into it then you fucked up.

3 – Her biggest mistake was falling in love with someone who was incapable of loving her in the way that she deserved. I don’t doubt he loved her, but he would never be able to give her what she needed from him.

4 – Her second biggest mistake was doing the interview. Let’s be clear…she’s only known for being Chris Browns girlfriend. She has no talents, she’s not known for anything else so why on earth does she feel the need to ‘voice’ her opinion and get her side out now that it’s over? Keep your silence, move on with your life…don’t sit on TV and give people what they want because you wanted to come out and look like ‘i’m human, i make mistakes’ but instead you went on TV failed to take responsibility for the part you played in your own downfall and people are dragging you for fucking filth!!

I didn’t like the interview at all, found it very uncomfortable to watch and just wanted it to be over. Me personally I wouldn’t have continued with that interview when that woman started patronising and downplaying what I had been through and when she started to TELL me what I had been through it would be a wrap.

So my verdict… pointless as FUCK.