“I’m independent, I don’t need a man, I can do it all by myself, Girl power!”
Oh please shut up with all that bull! Do you even believe the own bullshit that comes out of your mouth? Women are running all over the place screaming how independent they are and how they don’t need a man and whatever else rubbish they come out with. Someone tell me why it’s only single women singing this theme tune? Actually I’ll tell you why … it’s because women in long lasting successful relationships know the difference between being independent and being self sufficient.
To me, if you’re ‘independent’ you’re incapable of depending on another, for whatever. Financially, emotionally, socially … whatever. If you’re self sufficient that means you can get done what needs doing, should you have to.
Part of what makes a relationship work is the support you get from one another, the understanding, the guidance, the helping eachother grow – someone who is too concerned with trying to be super woman (or man) is closed to that, and that makes the relationship suffer. You gotta be able to depend on the people you choose to spend you’re life with from time to time.
It’s cool, go ‘head and be little miss independent while you’re tryna get your money up, or build your career or raise them babies by yourself… but if you’re looking for a man to build something meaningful n beautiful with? Then you’re gonna need to turn that independent switch down just a little to self sufficient. It’s ok to know you can do it all, but there’s nothing wrong with knowing you don’t have to.
For the record .. it’s a LOT easier to be independent than it is to be self sufficient, depending on people is HARD.