Cost and worth are two very different things… in every aspect of life. Generally this relates to business where the cost of a product or service tends to exceed its worth. For example, you pay £60 for a pair of shoes that cost £10 to make. Or better yet, when you want tickets to an event and all the tickets are sold out but you manage to find someone who is selling theirs and they are charging you three times the amount the paid for them? Yeah they may have cost £100 but they are now worth £300.
But I do find that this can actually be related to the dating world pretty well..
Well it’s pretty simple really. Your WORTH is what you deserve…but your COST is what you accept.
What do I mean?
Well you might deserve a man to treat you like a princess, you might deserve a man to throw rose petals at your feet, you might deserve an honest, loyal, hard working man who will be a great provider for your family and make you feel special every day. Yet here you are with a man who treats you like a toy, picks you up and puts you on the shelf when he’s bored, entertains other women behind your back and generally treats you as if you could never expect to do any better than him…
So whilst your worth may be through the roof, it didn’t cost all that to get you, it’s not costing all that to keep you so your cost and your worth don’t match.
It sounds so simple and in theory, in the early stages it is that black and white but all it takes is for you to stay a moment too long in the presence of a man/woman that doesn’t truly see your worth and before you know it your worth is reduced to match your cost. I say that because what we are worth is whatever we truly feel we are worth. When you stay with someone who treats you like you’re nothing and doesn’t appreciate you, you begin to believe them. Once you accept a diminished sense of self worth and you allow your worth to lower to your cost, leaving becomes even more difficult because to leave you have to not only realise that you are worth more than what you are receiving, but better yet you have to believe it.
In short…sit down by yourself, and really understand your worth, know what you want for yourself, understand you can have that and believe it. And then, look at what you have…if the two don’t match, maybe you can work out the shortfall but if the short fall is simply a piss take then you know exactly what it is you have to do!