… Because he can.
Chances are that even though you knew that was the answer, you came here on your long winded journey for some deep list that would put your mind at ease and reassure you that it will change and he will learn to appreciate you and he loves you and blah blah blah and not to forget the things that if you could only manage to change would improve everything…
Right or right?
Yeah well all of that is bullshit. Whilst there may be other reasons as to why he started treating you like shit…the reason he CONTINUES to treat you like shit is because he can. He gets away with it, he’s gotten away with it for so long that it has almost become learned behaviour and once that behaviour has been learned it doesn’t get unlearned. At least I’ve never seen it get unlearned. Does that mean he will treat other women as badly as he treats you? No. Will he talk to them with as much disrespect as he talks to you with? No not necessarily! Why? Because his learned behaviours are not going to be the same across the board. If he has learned that the other women in his life, before or after you are not going to tolerate his bullshit and there is no room in their relationship for the disrespect then one of two things is going to happen…either she’s going to kick him out of her life or he is going to come correct.
In my humble opinion…if the disrespect has just begun; nip that shit in the bud. Maybe he’s still testing the waters to see how much he can actually get away with and if that’s the case then you have time to get him to come correct, let him know you’re not having it and if he’s not going to come correct he’s got to come out your life. However if it’s been an ongoing thing, going on for quite some time; that shit ain’t changing. You have two options. You can keep kidding yourself that he will get it one day and he’s getting better bit by bit or you can keep it pushing, leave him to be someone elses problem and be with someone who is actually going to treat you how you deserve to be treated.
The choice is honestly yours.