Can ‘Self Discipline’ Be Taught..?

So I’m trying to get my life together. There are so many things I need to do in order to completely make that happen, but the first and most important thing is discipline. I know there are many forms of discipline, I understand that children can be taught to be disciplined in their approach and way of thinking… I’m just wondering if that is possible to teach yourself as an adult?

I have no self discipline. I.e; I find it very difficult to do what I have to do above the bare minimum. For example, looking after my son, my home, paying the bills, doing the food shopping, etc all those things I do and I do well, I do every single day and I don’t think about it; I don’t consider that discipline because those are the things I see normal to do. However when I say I say I struggle with being disciplined, I mean in terms of achieving the things I want to achieve. I will put off anything until ‘tomorrow’ if I can and you know what they say, tomorrow never comes and it is so true for me.

My business should be booming, my blog should be booming and my book should be completely finished. But none of that is true. Why? Because I am not disciplined enough to be consistent in doing what I need to do in order to make those things happen…

So I’m really reaching out at this moment in time…

If you have any ideas, tips or anything that worked for you that could HELP me learn how to be more disciplined then please let me know!

What Kind of Fairytale Is This…?

Little girls all over the world are being raised as princesses, being taught they should never allow anyone to treat them as though they were less than that, and whilst that should seem like such a beautiful thing, the harsh reality is … I feel accidentally it has become the opposite.

Why?

Because we’re teaching our young boys the exact opposite.

Collectively by the thoughtless things we say to our boys, the behaviour we encourage, the values we DON’T encourage as much as we should and the things we expose them to, we teach our boys how to be the very men we tell our daughters they should be avoiding. It’s accepted that boys WILL have multiple girls to entertain, we tell boys they’re too young to settle down, go out and live, we call good looking little boys ‘heartbreakers’ without realising that the only hearts they will be breaking are those of our daughters. We actively encourage our young boys to treat women in ways we tell our daughters they are too special to ever accept.

I guess my point is, in order for it to be a beautiful thing that we are raising our daughters to never forget they are princesses, and to demand and expect to be treated like that at all times… we need to raise our sons to be the Princes our daughters are expecting to meet…

Other wise …. What kind of fairytale is this?

What a Generation …

My cousin asked me today why relationships don’t seem to last long anymore… she asked if it’s because we tolerate less bullshit than women did previously or if it’s because there is more bullshit to tolerate. Honestly, I think it’s an unhealthy combination of both. 

I won’t even say our parents, I’ll say our grandparents because my age group is full of broken homes, single mothers and absent fathers; it was more our parents parents generation that this applies to. Our grandparents came from a time where divorce wasn’t an option. You didn’t walk away from a relationship because it had problems, you didn’t say to hell with it because it was hard; you worked on it. That obviously comes with it’s pros and cons, I would never expect someone to stay in an abusive relationship whether it be physical or mental but because of the era, that was the norm. Your husband cheated? You stayed. Your husband had another family? You stayed. That was just what was normal. 

Things aren’t like that any more. What is considered normal has changed because what we value is different. 

We’ve evolved from a time where family, respect and hard work was what was of value, and have ended up at a place where people will literally sell their souls for likes and followers. As if relationships weren’t hard enough before right? … 

Now women take pride in being the ‘side chick’, they don’t feel the shame that is associated with entertaining an involved man, in fact now they think they are in a better position than the woman who believes she is his only woman.

Now the other woman knows your childs name, what you look like, what your bed sheets look like and she hasn’t even been in your house, you don’t even know she exists but this smart phone generation means she can learn every inch of your life without your consent.

Now the other woman isn’t just a concern when he’s at the office or out with the boys, the other woman is swooning over his pictures and hitting him up on instagram direct after liking pictures he’s posted of the two of you together.

Everything is so accessible now. Everyone is so accessible and where once upon a time you knew your man wasn’t entertaining anyone else as long as he was home… now? Now that isn’t the case. 

In short…

Relationships are lasting less time than an app these days, because people are loyal to things, people are loyal to a supposed image, normal people have fan bases for nothing more than the image they portray on social media; and very few people really remember the value of respecting and loving the rarity of a family unit. 

xx 

Cause Kids Love GUM.

City Kids Never Sleep Leopard Print

So, I wonder if everyone could do me a massive favour and share this blog post. I’m trying to raise £1,000 to invest in my project; to help me take my childrens clothing line to the next step. At the moment all that is standing in the way of where we are now, and where we could be … is this project. I need to raise £1,000 and an investor I have will contribute the remaining £1,000….

Cause Kids Love GUM Kickstarter Funding Page

This project is so important to me because it is something I started when I felt lost. I felt like I could see a million different roads ahead of me, around me, behind me; but I had no idea whichone to take. I was 23 with a new born baby, no man, no stability, I was alone and I was scared. I have a huge family and everyone was great, but that doesn’t mean I wasn’t alone. Ultimately, it was just me and my baby. My job wasn’t as secure as I thought, childcare costs were through the roof and I just didn’t know what to do. There was no help, no guidance, people automatically assume because you’re a single mother it was YOU that fucked up. Wasn’t the case for me, at all. Maybe my mistake was being naive in falling for the bullshit. Regardless of that, I decided I would start my own business, a business that could one day give birth to a charity that would help single mothers who felt stuck, help them re find their identities and become confident role models for their children.

 

So GUM is more than a clothing line for me, it’s an opportunity to change lives.

If you could spread the word I’d truly appreciate it!

Thank you! xx

 

You’re Doing Too Much … Way Too Much

The title says it all. I say this myself at least 5 times a day, EVERY single day… We’re in a generation where everyone is just doing too much; and no not in a good way.

Doing too much as in everyone is a model, an entrepreneur, a comedian, a socialite, a blogger, a chef, a promoter, a musician, a fashion designer; need I continue?

Seriously people are confusing doing the most for the least and it’s irritating. I blame it on social media completely. It started with Myspace way back in the day, evolved with Facebook and then spun all types of out of control thanks to the likes of Instagram and Twitter. Social Media has created this new world almost, where it’s more important to look as though you’re doing amazing, than it is to actually be doing amazing. It’s crazy to me. You got people blowing their pay checks, to BUY things to POST on instagram…. NO SERIOUSLY I READ THIS THE OTHER DAY. A girl said she took out a loan so that she could buy things to make herself look how she wanted to for Instagram. Yes you heard correct. She should have her picture taken and whenever someone says “Doing too much” her face should appear because she is doing the most!

I’m gonna keep this short but what I will say is, people can tell when you’re doing too much because it’s unnatural. Be who you are, be what you are and accept that because everything additional is unnecessary.

Just … Saying … !