My cousin asked me today why relationships don’t seem to last long anymore… she asked if it’s because we tolerate less bullshit than women did previously or if it’s because there is more bullshit to tolerate. Honestly, I think it’s an unhealthy combination of both.
I won’t even say our parents, I’ll say our grandparents because my age group is full of broken homes, single mothers and absent fathers; it was more our parents parents generation that this applies to. Our grandparents came from a time where divorce wasn’t an option. You didn’t walk away from a relationship because it had problems, you didn’t say to hell with it because it was hard; you worked on it. That obviously comes with it’s pros and cons, I would never expect someone to stay in an abusive relationship whether it be physical or mental but because of the era, that was the norm. Your husband cheated? You stayed. Your husband had another family? You stayed. That was just what was normal.
Things aren’t like that any more. What is considered normal has changed because what we value is different.
We’ve evolved from a time where family, respect and hard work was what was of value, and have ended up at a place where people will literally sell their souls for likes and followers. As if relationships weren’t hard enough before right? …
Now women take pride in being the ‘side chick’, they don’t feel the shame that is associated with entertaining an involved man, in fact now they think they are in a better position than the woman who believes she is his only woman.
Now the other woman knows your childs name, what you look like, what your bed sheets look like and she hasn’t even been in your house, you don’t even know she exists but this smart phone generation means she can learn every inch of your life without your consent.
Now the other woman isn’t just a concern when he’s at the office or out with the boys, the other woman is swooning over his pictures and hitting him up on instagram direct after liking pictures he’s posted of the two of you together.
Everything is so accessible now. Everyone is so accessible and where once upon a time you knew your man wasn’t entertaining anyone else as long as he was home… now? Now that isn’t the case.
Relationships are lasting less time than an app these days, because people are loyal to things, people are loyal to a supposed image, normal people have fan bases for nothing more than the image they portray on social media; and very few people really remember the value of respecting and loving the rarity of a family unit.