Becoming a parent is an insanely turbulent journey, from the day you find out and consistently throughout bringing up your child. Every single day I learn something new, without fail; either about myself, my son or the world we live in. It’s not always a lesson I want to learn, but regardless of the fact I always do.
So what are the five things that stand out the most?
1. I am responsible for the person he is currently and in turn for the person he becomes. A lot of parents won’t agree, a lot of people will say things like “I can’t control the things my child does when I am not there”, those parents fail to realise that the things your child considers right or wrong, are a result of their parenting. Does this mean that good home training, and instilling values and morals in your child will guarantee they always do the right thing? NO, of course not. But when we take time to mould our children, teach them right from wrong and drill respect into them; it makes THEIR journey a little easier. Maybe not yours, but definitely theirs.
2. Respect outweighs Fear massively. Fear is temporary. Respect (for the right reasons) is usually permanent. For example, when I shout at my son for doing something he shouldn’t have done, yes he cries, yes he gets upset…but how long is that going to have that effect? Not long because eventually he’s going to realise that he has no reason to fear me. When people fear you, that leaves room for them to challenge you. Once the person that fears you comes to terms with the fact that you are only human just like they are … that fear will disappear and your position of authority is up for grabs. If my son respects me, as long as I continue to be the figure that he admires; that respect will always remain in place. Naive? Maybe.
3. Children are people, who have feelings. This one sounds ridiculous but before I had a child I believed I would be rigid, operating a “do as I say not as I do” regime in my household, and whilst to some degree it is like that and will always be, I believe it is important to treat your child as a person, an individual who deserves respect and the right to an opinion. When people treat their children like their feelings don’t matter, they create resentment within the home.
4. He teaches me, just as much as I teach him. You think you will never learn anything from a child? You’re wrong. Children are so honest, and desperate to learn that often their thirst for knowledge brings yours to the forefront of your mind. Just as you are helping them learn, their wonderful innocence does the same for you.
5. You will never understand the love a parent has … until you are one.
I have loved becoming a parent, and I love being a parent every single day. Is he a little challenging at times? Of course, he’s an intelligent two year old who is desperate to be better today than he was yesterday without even knowing it.
Enjoy your babies; they are precious but definitely not babies for long! x